The root of “career” is the Latin “carrus,” meaning “wheeled vehicle” (which is also the source of the word car). One French derivative of “carrus” was “carriere,” meaning “racecourse,” and when the noun “career” first appeared in English it meant “racetrack,” the course of life meaning was a later development. And the verb career means to go at full speed, perhaps even reckless, not unlike the word careen.
The point is your career is a race around a track where you go round and round to see who wins. You go as fast as you can and then your race ends. Was it fun, worthwhile, did you win?
Makes me wince too--the truth hurts.
To me our race track careers can be more like a Merry-Go-Round. We sit passively on a ride that gives us the false impression of progress and speed. We think we are in control because we we are distracted by the motion, the music and the lights. We can end up going nowhere. Ending up where we began.
Most of us are out of control racers who come around the turn at new year's and make general promises to ourselves and possibly others, we call them resolutions.
I am not a huge fan of new year's resolutions only because people wait for this time of year to make changes in their lives. When we know that change and challenge never waits for the ball to drop in Times Square. Change has to be an organic, inexorable, process of adaptability. (I also feel the same way about birthdays, weekends and summer vacations. Everyday is a chance to change and improve.) However, I do like any excuse to evaluate and reflect upon a time that has passed to commit ourselves to overcoming the gaps in our plans.
How do we avoid making the same general, non-measurable resolutions every year like:
- Lose weight and exercise more
- Read more
- Make more time for a hobby, or start-up business
- Devote more time to see friends and family
We know these never work. These safe, general, non-committal statements allow us to procrastinate. They are dejavu all over again. Success is not defined. Accountability is avoided. They are nice ideas that will never get traction without goals or milestones.
I always wanted a better life but now I realize I should have been more specific. (I paraphrase Lily Tomlin)
How many pounds by when? How many times a week? What will your resting heartbeat be? What about your BMI? What books, what hobby? And how far will you take your extra-curricular activities. When will you spend time with whom? Who will you help? From whom will you seek help?
As Les Brown says, "...then you find out you are behind with your bills and your dreams!"
How do we plan our lives to advance and evolve. Envision and then change, right? Set goals and execute? Attack weaknesses and man up?
Is change always about improvement in the future?
Or is it also about avoiding regrets and misery?
Do you respond to a positive vision or to avoiding the negative consequences of inaction?
Pain or pleasure? Choose.
Is change always adding or is it also subtracting?
Is less sometimes more?
Before you add why not subtract. Maybe getting rid of plans, possessions, and even people will make a difference.
What got you here probably won't get you there. So change is necessary.
Change starts with you and how you envision your future self.
Let's make resolutions that scare us a little bit. Challenge us. Or don't make them at all.
Specify your goals, your timelines, your metrics, your deadlines and hold your self accountable to get off the Merry-Go-Round.
Devoting more time for others. (Probably only second most popular resolution to weight loss) Needs specificity. Here are a few basic recommendations:
- Put these "others" on the top of your to-do list. Make them priorities.
- Make a list of the people who you want to reconnect with. Like the list of wines you want to buy or movies to see.....
- Schedule your priorities vs. prioritizing your schedule. Set dates and times to meet with, call, e-mail these "others" you supposedly care about.
- Set aside time every week to reconnect with someone you know or want to know better. Initiate the contact even if it is "their turn."
You will be the one who benefits from these connections. Yes, you will lead with your help, but you will be the one to reap the rewards of deepening your relationships with others.
So, stop reflect now and often. Make specific goals for yourself. Hold yourself accountable based on your preferences. Schedule your priorities. These are the rings you are trying to grab to make your ride purposeful and fulfilling. Then your career will get off of the Merry-Go-Round loop and move you down the path.
Even if you're on the right track, you'll get run over if you just sit there. Will Rogers
Thanks for reading. John