In honor of National Mentoring Month, we need to celebrate, advocate, and encourage mentoring. Each of us has the power to mentor. Regardless of age and stage--you have what it takes to help others. Mentoring is not the province of the "experts", the "elderly", the "successful" or the "important". We have established this on these pages many times. The keys to effective mentoring is showing up and doling out the truth.
More than anything, mentoring is about the meaning. The meaning of their lives. It is about the meaning of their work. It is about the meaning of their relationships. It is about the why not the what. It is focused on getting people to be true to their purpose.
It is always Meaning over Money. Robin Johnson
Don't worry about your stuff. Worry about making meaning. Seth Godin
Some people confuse mentoring with giving advice, outlining steps, or god forbid, helping people develop a plan.
Mentoring is like the best conversations that leads to the best relationships. Mentoring is about honest exchanges that help the mentee hear themselves. Help them hear their own heart.
Great mentoring is the process of allowing the mentee to be heard and surrendering to their soul. Mentoring is giving other permission to do this.
This requires holding one another accountable for what we say and do---or don't do.
You can't hold back and just be polite when you are mentoring. Not telling you to hurt people's feelings but letting people lie to themselves, live a deception, and/or say and do things that they think sound/look good, is a crime.
Not enough time to be wasted on a life without meaning.
Holding back is close to stealing. Neil Young
Mentoring is not being supportive--it is about mining for meaning.
Mentoring is not encouragement--it is about the pursuit of purpose.
Mentoring is not comfortable--it is about the uncomfortable
Mentoring is not about responsiveness--it is about overcoming resistance
Mentoring is not necessarily a program but a way of life
Mentoring is the greatest reality show ever--starring the mentee.
Everyone is a role mdel and indirectly mentors others through their actions. Other people are watching you and they learn by what you do more than what you say.
And in the end, every mentor gets more than any mentee. Great mentoring forces both mentor and mentee to walk the talk. To align themselves to their meaning. You can not help others without helping yourself.
Adopt the lifestyle of mentoring by helping others to SWiVEL---Strengthen What I Value Enjoy and Love!
Who will you mentor next? This month? And next?
Thanks for reading. John