People spend too much time finding other people to blame, too much energy finding excuses for not being what they are capable of being, and not enough energy putting themselves on the line, growing out of the past, and getting on with their lives. J. Michael Straczynski
How do we take full responsibility for where we are? Embrace what we are doing to get where we need to go. See our current opportunity as the best step to advance our lives and the lives of others.
Put the victim, excuses, entitlement and blame game behind us and power ahead by embracing the present.
Not talking about "hanging in there" or "toughing it out" or certainly not "waiting for something good to come along."
You underestimate what you have and how it can help you advance.
How do we love what we do to do what we love?
What you say to yourself and others becomes who you are. Your story is what connects you to your future and to others.
You attract whatever negative and or positive vibes you give off.
"I hate my job." "I can't wait to get out of here." "I don't believe in what I am doing any more."
It's odd but very frequent when people tell me that they are basically unhappy with their jobs and their lives. By the way, 70% of Americans say they are disengaged from their jobs--70%! (Gallup State of the American Workplace)
People say the darndest things. :) They appear to have little pride in themselves.
As the Mad Hatter advised Alice at the tea party:
Then you should say what you mean.
I do,' Alice hastily replied; `at least--at least I mean what I say--that's the same thing, you know.
Not the same thing a bit!' said the Hatter.
You might just as well say,' added the March Hare, `that "I like what I get" is the same thing as "I get what I like"!
So say what you mean but mean what you say! And like what you got to get what you like!
You got to embrace your circumstances, your current work, your employer and your life---because it's what you got. And you have to describe what you have by appreciating the positive and making lemonade.
I am not saying to stay at a toxic job. I am not saying to sugar coat your thoughts about your work and to lie about it. I am not talking about blind loyalty. I am speaking of a loyalty and commitment to yourself. This is your job. This is your life. And to the extent you allow your job to define you, you have to own it.
And your narrative, your storyline, can't be just negative. What you say about your work reflects on you and impacts your buzz and your trajectory.
So many people sound like fugitives to me. They are fleeing something to find something better. They have a foot out the door and are seeking the next thing. They are not in the present but stuck in the past and scheming about the future. They are not in the now. Just finished the New New Thing by Michael Lewis. Your life can't always be about the new new thing but about the now now thing.
Opportunities seek those that adapt and succeed and make the most out of what they have.
First of all the pursuit of life driven by passion and meaning can only be partially satisfied by one's professional career. For some fortunate people, work life can generate the bulk of one's life satisfaction. But for many of us we have to adopt a portfolio approach to life. Like your investments you need an allocation strategy to create returns from multiple sources which can "hedge" the others. We need a constellation of interests to feed our great hunger and curiosity for stimulation and meaning. If we place all of our eggs in one basket, place all of our chips on one bet, invest all of our energy into our job, the result is predictably an insufficient life.
People who are engaged in their lives. Who exude energy, confidence and positivity. These are people who by and large manage a broad and diverse portfolio of interests and activities. Their day job is but one source of their life force.
These are people who are busy, really busy. They make the most of what they have and they always seem in demand.
Get your story straight. What are you doing now that is interesting and engaging? Own where you are regardless of the challenges. Love it. Build on what you have to get to the next step in your plan.
What are you optimizing for?, asks Brian David Johnson, Intel's futurist. How are you using the present to plan your evolving future? How are you spending your work time and non-work time to provide more stimulation and growth? What is energizing your progress and your momentum now? What skills, knowledge and abilities are you honing?
It's not what happens to you, but how you react to it that matters. Epictetus
One of the reasons why so few of us ever act, instead of react, is because we are continually stifling our deepest impulses. Henry Miller
Don't dismiss your life as "Not what I want to do" or "It's just a job" Talk about what's emerging for you. Talk about what you are optimizing for. That will help you and others see your path.
You are going somewhere, right? And this place where you are is the best place to get there--because that's where you are!
Be what you say and say what you are. Appreciate what you have and who you are. And do it with pride and energy.
Success is going from one failure to the next with enthusiasm. Winston Churchill
Thanks for reading. John